The underlying cause of the growing epidemic in eating disorders and obesity isn’t food, but the fact that we don’t want to feel. We don’t know what to do with the sadness, disappointment, anger, helplessness, shame, anxiety or worthlessness inside of us and so we try and avoid or numb it through food and eating (or through not eating which is the …
The key to transforming our lives doesn’t lie where we think it does. We make the mistake of believing that getting to where we want to go means working harder or striving more. In reality – no matter whether we’re wanting to heal our relationship with food, end the arguments in our home, grow our business or meet the man or woman …
Particularly if we grew up in a family system which was dysfunctional or alcoholic, we’re likely to have developed an acute awareness of other people’s moods and internal states. A hypervigilance occurs where we learn to be incredibly attuned to cues signaling a shift in mood – a tone of voice, a facial expression, a hand gesture.
Like sponges, children unknowingly soak up …
There are invariably going to be times when we find ourselves in the corridor. No doors are opening. No answers are forthcoming. Nothing seems to be moving and we’re just sitting there in the unknown. It’s that tunnel of uncertainty.
There’s often at least one area of our lives where we feel we’re not where we’d like to be. Perhaps we’re struggling with …
We all have different ways of expressing anger. For some of us there’s an audible explosion – we raise our voices, shout and scream or even get physical. For others, there’s an internal contraction or shutting down. We go silent, give clipped one-word answers and radiate that unmistakable energy of hate or contempt.
Some people appear angelic to the outside world but then …
Some women know from a very young age that they want children. Others are hit by that realization at 30 or 35. And others still are quite certain they don’t want a baby but then in their late 30s or early 40s suddenly doubt that decision and find themselves desperate to have a child after all.
Men are all too familiar with the …