Thomas Merton wrote “A man who fails well is greater than one who succeeds badly”. But what does it actually mean to “fail well”?
Earlier this year I was sitting with the sting of failure and I was practicing dropping into my body to really pay attention to the physical sensations and thoughts that accompanied failure. I could feel a sort of defeated, heavy, …
I recently stumbled across a video from 2020 during lockdown when I was juggling clients remotely and piecing together a childcare plan for my kids. Feeling a mixture of lethargy and “leave me alone world” I had 30 minutes in my office before I had to be back on parenting duty. Parents around the globe were dealing with the same thing (and …
Statistics show that within seven years of coming into money, the average person will be living at the same economic level as before the windfall appeared. The explanation for this typically lies in a person’s “money scripts”, the powerful beliefs they formed about money, usually in childhood. These money scripts tend to remain unconscious and tend to be “generational” in that they …
At the root of many disorders – anxiety, depression, food issues and addiction – often lies trauma. That can be “small t” trauma, meaning relatively small moments of shame, embarrassment, fear, failure or rejection that all too often got overlooked. Or it can be “big T” Trauma, meaning trauma stemming from childhood neglect, sexual or physical abuse, rape, accidents, natural disasters or …
Somebody wants something from you and even though the tight knot in your stomach says “No”, what comes out of your mouth is “Yes”. That experience of denying your own feelings, in order to please others and keep them emotionally comfortable, is one of the tell-tale traits of codependency.
WHAT ARE THE OTHER SIGNS OF CODEPENDENCY?
Feeling responsible for, and worrying about, other people.
Obsessing …
Sleep is one of those things that happens best when we let go, so getting too focused on it can actually be disruptive. The more you think about whether you’ll be able to fall asleep tonight and what you should do to stop waking up, the more you unconsciously identify yourself as somebody with sleep problems, which in turn programs you to …
