Somebody wants something from you and even though the tight knot in your stomach says “No”, what comes out of your mouth is “Yes”. That experience of denying your own feelings, in order to please others and keep them emotionally comfortable, is one of the tell-tale traits of codependency.
WHAT ARE THE OTHER SIGNS OF CODEPENDENCY?
Feeling responsible for, and worrying about, other people.
Obsessing …
Sleep is one of those things that happens best when we let go, so getting too focused on it can actually be disruptive. The more you think about whether you’ll be able to fall asleep tonight and what you should do to stop waking up, the more you unconsciously identify yourself as somebody with sleep problems, which in turn programs you to …
If your relationship is in need of an overhaul, but you don’t have the time for long therapeutic processes, then the closest thing to a quick-fix that I’ve come across lies in figuring out whether you’re speaking the right “love language”.
Do you know what you need to feel really loved? Are you aware of what your spouse needs to feel truly loved?
Dr …
There’s a big difference between treating the symptom, and treating the underlying cause, of depression. If you’ve ever found yourself repeatedly sinking into the quicksand of despair, inertia or sadness, you’ll know how difficult it can be to heal.
Depression, once treated, often returns – and becomes more likely to recur the more often it is experienced. Every time a person gets depressed, …
The two topics that elicit the most heated emotions in couples therapy are perhaps money and sex. But there are plenty of other issues that typically get argued about: who’s spending too much time at work, who’s not helping out with household chores, who’s unwilling to commit, who’s being excessive with food or alcohol, who’s got misguided ideas about how to raise …
Whether you’re dating, engaged or married, at some point the honeymoon period ends. It can end gradually – nagging doubts that keep getting stronger over time. Or it can end abruptly because of a sudden realisation or a painful disappointment. In my therapy practice I’ve noticed that if couples don’t have difficulties in the year leading up to their marriage, they’ll often …