When You Respond Without Asking A Question First, This Happens

When I was trained as a therapist (nearly 20 years ago) we were taught that when asked something personal, to try not to respond without asking a question first. So if a client said “Do you have kids?” or even “Where are you going on vacation?” we were encouraged to say something along the lines of “so what do you think’s behind that question?” …

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When Personal Blindspots Become Parenting Blindspots

The doll in this photo is called Azlynn and is one of my daughter’s favorite toys. She was a gift from the children’s grandparents who live in Swaziland, Africa so her arrival was more coincidence than strategic planning on my part.

When I was pregnant and thinking about raising children I thought about gender.  How to raise a boy so that he didn’t get caught …

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