Statistics show that within seven years of coming into money, the average person will be living at the same economic level as before the windfall appeared. The explanation for this typically lies in a person’s “money scripts”, the powerful beliefs they formed about money, usually in childhood. These money scripts tend to remain unconscious and tend to be “generational” in that they …
At the root of many disorders – anxiety, depression, food issues and addiction – often lies trauma. That can be “small t” trauma, meaning relatively small moments of shame, embarrassment, fear, failure or rejection that all too often got overlooked. Or it can be “big T” Trauma, meaning trauma stemming from childhood neglect, sexual or physical abuse, rape, accidents, natural disasters or …
Somebody wants something from you and even though the tight knot in your stomach says “No”, what comes out of your mouth is “Yes”. That experience of denying your own feelings, in order to please others and keep them emotionally comfortable, is one of the tell-tale traits of codependency.
WHAT ARE THE OTHER SIGNS OF CODEPENDENCY?
Feeling responsible for, and worrying about, other people.
Obsessing …
Sleep is one of those things that happens best when we let go, so getting too focused on it can actually be disruptive. The more you think about whether you’ll be able to fall asleep tonight and what you should do to stop waking up, the more you unconsciously identify yourself as somebody with sleep problems, which in turn programs you to …
There’s a big difference between treating the symptom, and treating the underlying cause, of depression. If you’ve ever found yourself repeatedly sinking into the quicksand of despair, inertia or sadness, you’ll know how difficult it can be to heal.
Depression, once treated, often returns – and becomes more likely to recur the more often it is experienced. Every time a person gets depressed, …
The two topics that elicit the most heated emotions in couples therapy are perhaps money and sex. But there are plenty of other issues that typically get argued about: who’s spending too much time at work, who’s not helping out with household chores, who’s unwilling to commit, who’s being excessive with food or alcohol, who’s got misguided ideas about how to raise …