THE GEM HIDDEN IN BEING SINGLE

So many of us squander the precious time we have being single.  We waste it on  wishing we weren’t single.   We pretend to have fun, but often we’re secretly or not-so-secretly scanning the room, hoping to meet him or her. You know, that person who will complete us and make us feel whole, otherwise known as “the One”.

Now I’ve had my fair …

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WHAT HAPPENS WHEN THE BUBBLE BURSTS?

We all know that feeling when the bubble bursts.  That sinking sensation in our stomachs when we realize it hasn’t worked out how we’d planned.  That moment when we realize a relationship is over.  That instant when it becomes clear we’ve missed the boat on a dream that will never happen, or the moment we recognize that death is near and our …

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YOUR IMPERFECTION TURNS ME ON…

Walking down Kensington Church Street in London, I caught sight of an electric blue chair in the shop window of the furniture store Jimmie Martin.  The words “Your Imperfection Turns Me On” emblazoned across it in bright orange got my attention.

It made me think about how we typically deal with what we perceive as another’s imperfections.  Working with couples in therapy it’s …

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