You’re in the bathroom or raiding your wardrobe, trying to find something to wear. You turn to the mirror and there it is, that same thought, “I should be thinner”. The thought shows up so quickly you may not even notice it. You’re immediately swept up in the visceral experience of the hopelessness, despair or anxiety that can accompany mental loops about …
Our lives are on constant repeat. If you haven’t noticed then you’re not paying attention. The circumstances we encounter at home, at work and in our relationships may appear to be different on the surface, but very often the underlying dynamics and themes remain unnervingly similar. We keep doing the same thing over and over again.
This is no surprise. The way we …
So many of us squander the precious time we have being single. We waste it on wishing we weren’t single. We pretend to have fun, but often we’re secretly or not-so-secretly scanning the room, hoping to meet him or her. You know, that person who will complete us and make us feel whole, otherwise known as “the One”.
Now I’ve had my fair …
We all know that feeling when the bubble bursts. That sinking sensation in our stomachs when we realize it hasn’t worked out how we’d planned. That moment when we realize a relationship is over. That instant when it becomes clear we’ve missed the boat on a dream that will never happen, or the moment we recognize that death is near and our …
Walking down Kensington Church Street in London, I caught sight of an electric blue chair in the shop window of the furniture store Jimmie Martin. The words “Your Imperfection Turns Me On” emblazoned across it in bright orange got my attention.
It made me think about how we typically deal with what we perceive as another’s imperfections. Working with couples in therapy it’s …